Shame is everywhere. This book unashamed resonated with me on so many different levels. Growing up I dealt with shame. I was a perfectionist and everything including the way that I looked just had to be perfect Heather Nelson in her book unashamed talked bout her own dealing with being shameful and how you can break this vicious cycle.
Shame took a hold of me in many areas of my life and its the very areas that Heather Nelson describes in her book.
Heather talks about the three areas of shame 1. Body 2. Performance 3. Relationship Shame
Body shame told me I was too skinny so I ate my way to shame. Body shame told me to cover up at all times and that included wearing a jacket in the summer. Performance shame said that you will never be god enough and strive to be perfect at all costs. Relationship shame told me if you made any mistakes leave the relationship you are not a good person not worthy of the relationship because I made a mistake.
How to break away from the cycle of shame?
The way that I broke away from the cycle of shame was realizing that the only one perfect is God so that mean you will make mistakes. I had to learn to accept. Accept what God have me by realizing that God created me that way. Relationship shame was put to rest when God helped me to see there is something called grace and if you run away you can’t receive grace of forgiveness. Satan make me put myself on a higher pedestal that God. Heather also gives a reason to break free when I dare to believe that God forgives my sinful anger and sets me free from the shame of not-good-enough that I alway feel afterward I can/am free to draw closer to my husband and kids and change the channel of my emotions from despair to hope.
Shame is a stronghold that prevents us from living completely in God’s love. Shame will hold you away from God’s loving arms. Dealing with shame is not easy this book helps you to identify your shame, I would say start here.
I recommend this book its not a feel good book because it causes you to look deep at why you do the things that you do. After reading this book with you will not be the same.
About the author:
Heather Davis Nelson (MA, Westminster Theological Seminary) is a writer, counselor, and speaker. Heather writes regularly at HeatherDavisNelson.com and has been a featured writer at the Gospel Coalition, as well as a contributing author to the Journal of Biblical Counseling. She and her husband are parents to twin daughters and live in southeastern Virginia.
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