There isn’t much that’s more stressful than preparing for your wedding day. It’s supposed to be one of the happiest times of your life but you might find yourself snapping at your partner a lot more than you were expecting to simply because of the stress. It’s important to remember to look after your relationship as you prepare to join your lives together forever. Here are a few tips to help you out…
Discuss Your Future Aims And Dreams
First of all, you need to discuss the future that you envision for yourselves, to make sure that they match up. Hopefully you’ve discussed what you want before you got engaged – but you need to make sure you’re on the same page for important issues like whether or not you want to have children and whereabouts you want to live. Even if you think you can change your partner’s mind, it’s safest to assume that you can’t, or you might end up resenting them – and could you cope with that, or with them resenting you? No matter how much you love them, if you have a deep need to have children and they don’t then you may not be compatible.
When you get engaged, you might think that your relationship is absolutely perfect – but after that, you might just start to notice a few cracks forming at the seams. Even if you love each other to the moon and back, no relationship is ever going to be completely free of conflict, so it’s important to make sure that you learn to communicate productively before you get married. If you have kids, you want them to grow up in a stable home without hearing their parents fighting, after all. If you find yourself sulking and not resolving arguments in good time then you may not be very good at communicating with each other. Make sure that in the future, you really explain to your partner how you feel and explain why that is, without using any blaming language that might make them defensive. It’s important to know that they value the way that you feel. A lot of companies offer pre-marriage counseling, as do churches – for instance, if you’re religious, Christian marriage counseling will help even before you get married.
Go On Vacation
Finally, wedding planning can be stressful – so you need to take some time out to enjoy each other’s company. Not everyone can take a pre wedding vacation so a few date nights in which you absolutely do not talk about wedding planning will suffice. If you can get a weekend away together, absolutely do so – visit a local town that you’ve never been to before, or treat your partner to a night in a fancy hotel where you can eat some great food and enjoy some real luxury. The most important thing about your marriage is your love for each other – so enjoy each other’s company and look forward to the lives that you’ll be sharing with each other.