Losing someone you love, who is close to you, or part of the family can be devastating. It can affect you emotionally and it can be physically debilitating. It can overcome you, affect your decision making, and it can certainly have you feeling emotion on a scale you may not have experienced before. It isn’t an easy thing to go through, and certainly is one of those situations that will take time to overcome. However, there are ways you can try and positively move forward. I wanted to share with you what some of them are.
Make the funeral a celebration of life
Losing a loved one, friend, family member, even an acquaintance in work can affect you, and there is no hiding from that truth. Of course it can be difficult to think about things, especially a funeral, but this is something that will need to be organised sooner rather than later. However, if the planning is down to you, or you are involved in some way, try and make it more of a celebration of life than a sad affair. After all, I am sure that would be what the person you would have lost wanted. Think of them, celebrate the happy memories and focus on all of the good aspects. Even using their favourite songs as part of the service, no matter how upbeat or off topic they may seem. This is your chance to celebrate a life, and while you want to mourn the loss of it, often celebration is one of the best ways to do it.
Handle the legal affairs quickly and without disruption
There will always be tough things to consider when it comes to the loss of a loved one, and one of them happens to involve the legal side of things and finances. It isn’t a pleasant thing to endure, and so you may want to enlist the help of a probate attorney to handle or the difficult aspects of it. There will be accounts that need settling, a will perhaps to content with and an estate to handle, and these can be tricky to navigate without the expert advice of someone who deals with it as part of their job.
Make time in your day for grief
Grief is something that can overcome you at any moment of the day, especially if you are not allowing yourself the time to deal with the emotions that you are feeling. Some people are guilty of trying to move on too quickly, and while there is nothing wrong with that, building up the emotions that you are not handling may mean at some stage you may reach boiling point. Take time out of your day, even if it is for five minutes quiet time or prayer to help you feel more at ease. It is actually going to help you in the long term to allow yourself that time to grieve than to let it build up.
Seek out new ways to help you overcome what you are feeling
Finally, try out new ways of helping you overcome your feelings. It may be things like attending church more often, meditation or exercise as a way of distraction and allowing you to focus on other aspects of your life.
I hope that these tips help you if you find yourself losing someone dear to you.