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    Encouragement for a rough 2015


    Everyone has the moment you know Dec 31st when you think about all the great things that has happened and you say yes I pray for an even better year. But what happens when you can’t think of a great moment in 2015? Month after month my family has been hit with surprise after surprise.

    So to that I say enough…enough of 2015 lets just move on to 2016. Below is a timeline of what has been happening in my life for 2015.

    January 2015 wrong information was spread about me which caused lots of confusion and resentment

    February 2015 pipe bursts in my basement

    March 2015 my son get an allergic reaction to detergent breaks out in hives and rashes for one month

    April 2015 daughter gets burned from curling iron on two of her fingers

    June 2015 plan trip to Disney World but with major setbacks including being told that we must pay 600.00 for a car rental for 3 days and being charged for 2 hotels at one time.

    July 2015 Daughter stops walking after having a 103 degree temperature she was hospitalized for 2 days stayed at home to help here get back on her feet hospital can’t explain what is wrong.

    August 2015 enrolled son late to school had to pay twice the amount of money for late registration

    September 2015 On our way to buy school shoes for our son we get hit by a car at a red light.

    October 2015 told to attend therapy for three times a week and visit to hospital for a possible blood clot and chest pains

    November 2015 visit to MRI which says that slight spine deformity

    December 2015 told my insurance company that the place I was attending was fraudulent and under investigation because my test results could be false.

    How did I maintain my sanity? I will not lie there were days when I said God are you punishing me for something but I had to remove those thoughts and replace them with God’s word.

    So there you have it in a nutshell what my year has been like. Pretty rough yea I know but all in all have used these experiences to say that in spite of our family has held on and stayed together we have laughed cried and shouted but not at each other we have done our best to make the most of our situations.

    In between the trials and stress we go out and have dinner or go to a movie or a boat ride.God has truly been in the midst of our storms he has been our peace.

    [bctt tweet=”We have not wavered in our faith while Satan wanted to stop us from praising him we still praised God for who he is and what he was doing in our lives.”]

    Here are some scriptures that kept me grounded

    Colossians 3:15 Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace

    Deuteronomy 31:6 Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.

    John 14:27 Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let you hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.

    Psalm 29:11 The Lord gives strength to his people; the Lord blesses his people with peace.

    Philippians 4:6-7 Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Jesus Christ.

    2 Thessalonians 3:16 Now may the Lord of peace himself give you peace at all times and in every way. The Lord be with all of you.

    If you have also gone through a rough year don’t lose hope as long as you are breathing you get the opportunity to have a better day.

    I leave this prayer for you

    Lord, I come to you on behalf of whoever is reading this and having a hard time whether it be in their marriage, finances, health or whatever else Lord I pray they will not lose faith in you and remember that you will never leave nor forsake them. I pray that as they go through this rough season in their lives they will come out of this as pure gold and stronger than they were before. Lord remember your people all this I ask in Jesus Name Amen.

    faith Fashion Inspirational Corner

    Why I agree with Mrs. Ayesha Curry

    So Saturday night Ayesha Curry wrote this statement on Twitter.

    “Just looking at the latest trends. I’ll take classy over trendy any day of the week”

    Just looking at the latest fashion trends. I’ll take classy over trendy any day of the week. #saturdaynightinsight

    I have not always been a Christian but…. I always had standards. I was never into trendy items myself. While others were wearing belly shirts and tight jeans in high school I chose to wear slacks, and overalls.  I never liked exposing any skin because I felt that a guy would only want one thing when approaching me and truth be told that is exactly what happens. We all know that men are visual so them seeing breasts and butt will automatically send then into a different outlook of who you are to them. When I did try to dress provocative, sexy however you want to call it, I kept in mind that no man was going to approach me on a serious note and that in it self was also the reason why I decided not to dress that way.

    Now fast forward to my life as  a Christian and I got caught in the whole you shouldn’t wear pants and jewelry era and it nearly destroyed me. Why? because again the clothes you wear does not depict your character. I had to leave the place that put me in such bondage and come to find God on my own and his word tells me whatever you do it as unto the Lord.

    My mindset has shifted to ask is what I am doing pleasing in your sight? So if wearing a miniskirt and I have no bad intentions with this low-cut blouse I am not seeking attention to my body in a way that is not pleasing to God than by all means but if we are honest with ourselves that is not really the case is it? As women when we dress this way we are seeking attention. We want to be noticed or we want to entice a man to talk to us.If your intention in doing something is not with good intention or about God then you are automatically doing it for the wrong reasons. I am in total agreement with Mrs. Curry statement but I am extremely concerned about the slack she got for speaking this way. There is nothing wrong with her statement I am concerned with the women who are attacking her and other women for believing in modesty. In a blaze article addressing modesty

    I’ll wear what I want because I like it.

    You can’t tell me how to dress, that’s oppressive.

    It’s comfortable.

    If a man is lustful, that’s his problem.

    It’s the man’s job not to look.

    If you are guilty of saying these things its time for a reality check. These statement are ones that do not glorify God in any manner or form. These statements are saying regardless of what it’s all about me and worshipping God is not about you it’s about honoring HIM.

    As women of God we have to honor God with not just our lips but our bodies we are the temple of God and that doesn’t mean dress modest and have a lying, covetous spirit but as said before your whole body has to be pure not just your eye but your arms your legs and your mind.

    This all goes back to one thing

    Colossians 3:23
    And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men;

    [bctt tweet=”With everything you do think about your intention because its either for the Lord or for self. “]

    How do you dress? Do you have standards as to how far you will dress?





    Book Reviews Christian Events Event recaps faith Guest Bloggers Inspirational Corner

    My Interview with Mrs. Sarah Jakes Roberts

    I have truly been inspired by this young lady. As the daughter of T.D. Jakes she has been in the limelight her whole life and it would have been easy to hide behind a mask and pretend to have it all together but…..

    Her testimony proves that God is real, faithful, loving, and forgiving. I had the honor of interviewing this beautiful young lady and you won’t be disappointed. Her new book called Dear Mary is available on Amazon and Barnes and Noble.


    1. Mothers face many unique challenges today. How will Dear Mary help moms to face those challenges head‐on?

    One of the most dangerous issues facing modern moms is their commitment to silence. Dear Mary strives to break the barrier of silence by vocalizing some of the common concerns that are unique to motherhood.

    2. Even though Mary the mother of Jesus lived some two thousand years ago, what are some lessons she offers to modern‐day mothers?

    Mary is a remarkable example of quiet, resilient faith in the face of adversity—from the angel’s first announcement of her pregnancy to the death and resurrection of her Son, she was witness to our Lord and Savior in a special way, and modern‐day moms can learn valuable lessons from her complicated path of motherhood.

    3. What gave you the inspiration to write this book?

    Facing achievements and challenges with my children gave me the inspiration to write this book. As my daughter began to encounter some of the intricate themes of motherhood like confidence, peer pressure, and self‐esteem, my son began his foray into adolescence. This unique time in parenting made me begin to question myself and see them in a different light.

    4. What attracted you to the letter style that we see in each chapter of Dear Mary?
    I believe that letters are a classic style of conversation that allows for intimacy with the reader. I wanted readers to feel as though they were witnessing a conversation between two friends.

    5. Where can people connect with you online and find out more about your book Dear Mary?

    The best way to connect with me is to visit my website, There you can learn more about my journey and Dear Mary.


    faith Inspirational Corner

    Overcoming Suicide

    Suicide in United States is ranked 3rd for young people aged 15-19. There is one suicide every 15.2 minutes.This week is National Suicide Prevention and I am a suicide survivor. In honor of this week I have decided to tell my testimony to encourage someone who may be feeling like there is no hope in life I want to let you know that God has you here for a purpose and for a reason. I pray that you are inspired by an testimony and that you chose to live and not die!

    I am 34 years old I was raised in the Bronx. I received my Bachelors degree from Binghamton University and my Masters degree from New York University. Growing up I lived with my mom who was an alcoholic she died when I was six years old from a blood transfusion where she contracted AIDS. After my mom died I lived with my grandmother but I had a hard time adjusting to life I believed I was the reason my mother died and if I was never born she would have lived.

    Junior high school was not a good place for me I saw nothing good for myself while some young girls wake up saying I am pretty I woke up would look in the mirror and say I am ugly, skinny, worthless I wrote hate letters to myself reminding myself of who I was not.

    In High School, my self-esteem plummeted and I thought nothing of myself. I was ugly and skinny. I covered myself in the summer with jackets and searched for love in the wrong places with boys. I overdosed on pills and ended up in the hospital at the same time I made my self-worth my school work which I excelled with A’s and B’s if I received a C I would starve myself until I did better. I became obsessed with studying to the point I had to take an EKG because I started shaking and the diagnosis was that I was overworking my brain and if I don’t stop I will cause brain trauma.

    In college, even though I was excelling with a 3.4 average, I had a very hard time with suicide, promiscuity and pride. I believed that it was my parents responsibility to help me and on one else’s so I would suffer as a payback to God and my parents for leaving me by myself.I remember I didn’t have money to order Chinese food I was hungry because my meal plan ran out.They asked me if I was hungry and I said no. What pride did to me was hold me back from asking for help. When everyone was done with their food and with everyone gone, I went into the kitchen and dug into the garbage to get the food and eat it.As I was eating the leftover food I thought to myself no one will know about my problems. I also had a hard time with suicide and I thought about suicide a lot and I thought about committing suicide several times but God had a different plan for my life.

    My last attempt was in graduate school I got baptized for I loved God and I understood his power but yet I was still struggling with suicide my boyfriend now husband had no way of being able to reach out to help me all he knew was that he loved me and wanted to see me overcome this. I started to feel a disconnection in church I felt that no one was going through anything close to what I was going through so I felt even more alienated and lost. One night me and my boyfriend were walking to my college dorm and something told me to run in the street with oncoming traffic and I started to run into the street and my boyfriend pulled me and said what is wrong with you I love you but you have to stop behaving like this.   I was embarrassed and ashamed as I walked back to my dorm alone. I went upstairs to my room on the 13th floor I looked out of the window and as I looked down it seemed like if I jumped I would not get hurt as I stepped off of the ledge I heard a voice say STOP! I listened to the voice and I came down I went down on my knees and cried out to God to help me because I can’t take this anymore from that moment I never wanted to commit suicide again.

    Satan used so many tricks and devices to get me to the place of anger, depression, suicide, low self-esteem.

    [bctt tweet=”Satan will take a negative situation and make it more negative but God will take a negative situation and turn it around for your good. “]

    God has called all of us to be saved he loves his children. The issue that is holding you back is also stopping your relationship with Christ. God wants you to be happy, prosperous, joyful, contentious, and most importantly he want you to feel loved. I thank God for restoration everything I said I want God said you are. I learned that God does not make mistakes his promises are true and just. Our flesh cannot see past the pain but if we remember God’s word we will live victoriously.