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    How Spirituality Can Help A Relationship Gone Awry

    Something that we fear as humans is not knowing what the meaning of life is. We don’t know where we came from, or why we are here on earth. That alone makes us wonder, what does our existence really mean to ourselves. If we are just in a line of beings to be born, what makes us special? If we aren’t special, then is there any hope in carrying on? Many relationships that were first spiritual can sometimes go through patches where that magic is gone. It’s normal for couples to argue, it’s normal for fallings out to occur but to abandon ways in which you started such as a holy alliance with each other, spells the end. It’s actually quite common for spiritual couples to go through the same things couples that aren’t spiritual. Just because you have god watching over you doesn’t mean that you won’t face the same tests as everybody else. It’s how you get back to where you once was that matters. Here’s how to help a spiritual bond gone awry.

     

     

     

    Be apart and search

     

    Like all couples are recommended, when you have a big fight you need to give each other space. However when you do, you should spend some time away from them and go to your place of worship without them. Here you will feel as if you can be more honest about your partner without them sitting, standing or kneeling beside you. Ask god questions about your relationship and whether or not your partner is a test that you have the strength to pass. If you are both in tune with each other on this level, you should each be doing the same thing. You may even find it better to pray at the same time in different churches when there isn’t a service happening. You can always talk to a local pastor together rather than going for expensive marriage counselling. This is one of the benefits of being a member of a church so don’t be afraid to book a meeting.

     

     

     

    Help from yourselves

     

    There may be certain things going on in the home that you would rather not have any of your friends or even family know. One of these things could be domestic abuse, and it could be a one-way or a two-way street. Certain churches are known to help couples going through such an order, such as the The Universal Church where they have helped 56,000 women who were victims of domestic abuse. They use their own rahab program which teaches both sexes about their roles on earth and how they can figure out their differences. They also have millions of activists that can reach out to you and give you advice on further action if you require it. For example if the first level of help isn’t working then you can opt into a deeper level of the program.

     

    If you are a member of a church, you have access to a lot of people that can advise you about a struggling relationship. However some churches are better than others as they have more funding and workers to give their time to you.

     

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    4 Reasons You Shouldn’t Cancel That Speech

    There are two types of people in the business world: Those who are confident about giving a public speech – and they are not many–, and those who are terrified at the idea of speaking in public – this is by far the largest group. However, the more you face your fears and get out of your comfort zone, the more likely you are to get better at convincing your audience and becoming an engaging speaker. It’s fair to say that when fear is paralyzing, you might need to consider the underlying cause first to understand how to deal with your business speech. In reality, there are more than one situations in which overcoming your challenges can be a major success in your professional career.  

    Don’t cancel the speech

     

    #1. Use it as a self-confidence boost

    A lot of women suffer from what is called the impostor syndrome in the business environment. They worry they may not be good enough for their position, questioning both their skills and their appearances. The impostor syndrome is a serious handicap to career progression, and the only way to fight it off is to face your fears. You can practice your speech ahead so that your delivery is on point. Additionally, if you’re conscious about your look, you can boost your overall appearance by learning to look after yourself. Make it a lifestyle habit to put yourself first, from eating the right food for your body to using the right skin care product.

     

    #2. It’s the first appearance after a significant health issue

    If you’ve been off work for a while as a result of an injury, it’s natural to want to come back as early as possible. After all, working is an essential part of maintaining your lifestyle. However, while you might be comfortable sitting at your desk with a pair of crutches, you may not be ready to hold a speech if you’re unsure of your mobility. You can train actively for the occasion with professionals from a rehabilitation center to feel more confident. Ultimately, showing you are still relevant professionally despite the accident secure your career.

     

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    #3. You can nail that professional promotion

    You’ve been after a promotion for ages, and you still haven’t had any chance to land your dream job. It’s a nasty situation but showing off your presentation skills can significantly improve your chances. You can learn from the some of the best speakers around: Keep your slides light and focus on revealing one piece of information at a time. But you are the main object of the attention, so fade your slides to black when you speak.

     

    #4. You’ve decided to resign from your company

    If you’re working on expanding your side business to resign from your company in the near future, being asked to hold a speech can put you in an awkward position. But don’t reject your chance to network ahead of the launch of your business. Your network can save you a lot of money when you’re ready to get to the market!

     

    Most people refuse to hold a speech because they feel uncomfortable about the attention. However, if you struggle with making your professional presence more relevant in your business industry, you can use the speech as a way to boost your career proactively and prove you’re on top of your game.

     

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    How To Help With Seasonal Blues

    Life isn’t always straightforward. It can be very complex and understanding yourself, and your body is important when the seasons change. A few of us suffer from seasonal depression so to help, here are some tips that may help you combat it as best you can.

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    Allow Your Body To Rest

     

    You know your body best so listen to it. Resting our body is vital because it gives it time to heal and repair itself. Depending on the season, you may find yourself more tired and exhausted so give your body the sleep it needs instead of depriving it.

     

    Natural Light

     

    It seems very simple, but natural light can have a big effect on our mood. If it’s possible, try and get as much natural light during the day as possible. If you struggle to get enough, then there are artificial lights that mimic natural light so these can be great to have in your office or home.

     

    Get Exercise

     

    This doesn’t work for everyone but for some, gentle exercise can be a great way of pumping the blood around the body and lifting your mood. Alongside a healthy, balanced diet, your body is then getting all the right vitamins, minerals and exercise it needs to stay healthy.

     

    Counseling

     

    Speaking to someone is beneficial in any situation where you don’t feel yourself or if you’re low and upset. Usually, we open up more to a stranger with the experience to help with the worries rather than a family friend or colleague. Counseling is available to anyone who needs it so don’t keep it all bottled up.

     

    It also helps when you’re going through a particularly tough life experience like death or dealing with a divorce attorney.

     

    Antidepressants

     

    Taking pills is something that should be taken very seriously and is a final option for anything that you may have tried before. Antidepressants are different for everyone so one person’s experience with them may be different from the next. Consult your doctor and weigh up the pros and cons of taking them before you go ahead with it.

     

    Take A Mental Health Day

     

    Your health is important, and no job or work is worth poor health. If you’re having a bad day, speak to your company (HR specifically) about taking a mental health day off. It’s great to see more companies taking an active responsibility in keeping employees happy, so don’t be afraid to approach them when you need time off.

     

    Get More Vitamins

     

    When it gets dark and the nights draw in earlier, the lack of daylight can play havoc on our mood and state of mind. It’s important that you still get all of those vitamins your body needs and you can do this by taking vitamin tablets or eating foods that contain those vitamins.

     

    Mental health is still something that for many is difficult to understand or handle. As it’s an invisible illness, it’s hard to spot the signs. Keep care of yourself and don’t forget to reach out to someone if it gets too hard.

     

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    Can You Achieve Confidence In Every Corner Of Your Life?

    Confidence is the lifeline towards a happier and more satisfied you. Sadly, it’s an intricate and delicate beast. It can smash like glass the moment someone comes close. What’s more, it doesn’t always transfer from one area of your life to another.

    It may be that you’re confident in one aspect of life, but not another. This can have severe repercussions on your happiness. It can even put the confidence you do have in jeopardy. Before you find the happiness you’re after, then, you need to take care of this in all areas of your life.

    Lucky for you, we’re going to help you do just that by breaking down the three primary aspects of your day. Keep reading to find out how you can gain confidence in each of them.

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    Your driving life

    Most of us start our days by driving, so we’re starting here in this post. Many of us struggle with confidence on the roads. Often, we get bullied into believing we’re bad drivers by dangerous drivers around us. If this is the case, you need to stop it from happening. Remember that those other drivers are the problem. As can be seen from the aggressive driving data offered from the law offices of George Salinas, around 56% of road fatalities are a result of driving like this. Remind yourself of that next time someone drives too close to your bumper. And, whatever you do, don’t let them leave you doubting yourself.

    Your work life

    One dressing down when you arrive in the office is enough to see your confidence come crashing. You worry, continually, that you aren’t good at your job. And, your boss confirms the fear The first way to build yourself up here is to remember that your boss wouldn’t employ you if you weren’t good enough. He chose you for the role for a reason. Remember, too, that a lot of office-based rage is not a result of any inadequacy on your part. Often, managers take their stresses out on employees without meaning a thing by it. If even these reassurances don’t help you hold your head high, why not embark on a training course which provides you with a baseline level of confidence to work with?

     

    Your personal life

    When work is over, you return home. No matter how good your day has been, it could all come to an end if you aren’t confident in this personal aspect. Perhaps you live alone and aren’t confident enough to get out and meet other people. Or, it may be that you’re in a relationship, but you aren’t confident enough to tell that person how you feel. In that case, it pays to step outside of your comfort zone. Sign up for an evening class and force yourself into talking with your classmates. Realize, too, the importance of speaking to your partner without worrying about the consequences. The chances are that your relationship will be better as a result, and your confidence will flourish.

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    The Power To Change: Stopping Yourself Feeling Like You’re Being Taken Advantage Of

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    We know we let people do it, but we don’t make the changes necessary. When people take advantage of us, it leaves us feeling used, dirty. And we know that it’s yet another emotional blow to our sense of pride. For some of us, it appears to be a trait that we struggle to shake, and every time we bounce back from a life problem, it appears there are more to take its place. We can feel hardwired to be this weaker person, but it doesn’t have to be like this. If you feel like people take advantage of you, what are the best ways to change this forever?

    Learn Your Frame Of Mind
    It can feel like a cloud hanging over us all of the time. We do our best for people, yet time and time again, we get stepped on. Not just the people that we expect to do it for us, but we get to the point that we don’t even realize that we’re being taken advantage of in all areas of life. Slowly, the realization dawns on us that we give off this vibe that we are weak, but when we expect people to be nice all of the time, those little conflicts in life become too much to bear. Maybe someone screams at you in the street because you are blocking their way, or you’ve walked into too many environments where people blatantly ignore what you have to say, or even worse, talk over you as soon as you start a sentence. And as time goes on, we begin to retreat into ourselves, and think that there’s no point in bothering. This is a very dangerous frame of mind to be in because it results in us feeling this low self-worth. We can begin to feel like we’re the one causing all the problems, and it is only a matter of time before this becomes our default mode. When you look at common injury accidents in a public setting, if the person has suffered at the hands of someone else, yet the victim is apologetic, and doesn’t take the opportunity to fight for what is theirs, the cliché of if you “let them walk over you now, they will walk over you for the rest of your life” rings true. It is about your attitude to situations, and you have control over it. It’s not the situations you have control over, but how you react to them.

    The Art Of Saying “No”
    When you feel people walking all over you, and taking advantage of you for everything you’ve got, is it because you’re saying yes all the time? Some people don’t like to say no, and this can have devastating implications, because this type of person becomes a people pleaser, and they feel that they do everything for everyone else, to the detriment of their own sense of self and happiness. Saying no isn’t about disappointing people, it’s about exerting yourself. As far as psychological battles are concerned, this is one of the biggest. Saying no for the first time can feel like you’ve let someone down, even though you know, deep down, you are saying no for a very good reason. It’s not just about saying known, but when you feel pushed back, learning how to dig your heels in and explaining, not forcefully, but assertively, why you won’t do something, this is all you need. We feel that when we put our defenses up against something like this, but we can expect more push back, but this is really the case. And if it gets to the point that the other person becomes overly assertive, or even pushy, you can let them hang themselves with their own noose, and they will show their true colors. The best way to begin is to say no to small things, and build up your tolerance. The first time you do it, you will feel that you’ve disappointed someone, but gradually, as you become accustomed to it, you will begin to realize the number of things that you’ve compromised yourself on in your life.

    Turning This Into A Habit
    When we’ve made a conscious decision to assert ourselves, or stop a specific person taking advantage of us, we can feel setbacks. The big mistake we make at this point is that we think we haven’t come very far. And it is a one step forward, two steps back scenario on occasion. What’s important is that you know you are pushing in the right direction. Turning these tricks of confidence into a habit is about reinforcing them, and this isn’t done overnight. It could take months of fine tuning, and learning how to get back in touch with your instincts. Because these negative feelings become learned, we perceive these to be normal, and the same thing happens when we undertake positive practices at altering our frame of mind. Don’t beat yourself up for having a bad day, especially when you’ve made the decision that you’re not going to put up with this sort of thing anymore, because life is all about bad days. If we accept that we will hit stumbling blocks, we can better prepare our psyche to deal with these problems. So many of us, we can’t accept that a problem will ever come up, but this is about striving for the idea of perfection. When people take advantage of us, we have the power to not bother with that sort of person anymore. The bullies out there will turn that on you, and try to make you out but you are weak. This is incorrect. It’s not about being physically strong or being better than others, but when we are made to feel that we are inferior, this drills deep into everything we hate about ourselves. We all encounter these people in our lives, but we don’t have to suffer them. When people try to take advantage of us, whether in friendships, relationships, or in day to day life, we don’t have the power to change them, but we have the power to change us.