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    Is There Such a Thing as a Positive Divorce?

    If you’re about to enter divorce proceedings, you might be wondering how you can make this divorce as quick and painless as it can be. When both parties are looking to get things done quickly and no one is making demands that are regarded as unreasonable by the other person, it is possible to split in a smoother way. But can we really call this a positive divorce?

     

    Sometimes, Separating Can be Best for Everyone Involved

     

    It’s not always a good idea to persist with a relationship that both people feel has run its course. In fact, it can be sometimes be very damaging to the people involved if you take that route forward. You will only make your own life more difficult and stop you from living the life you want to live. Sometimes, it’s just best for everyone to accept that it’s over and move on for the good of everyone.

     

    Uncontested Divorces Are Always Less Bitter

     

    If you decide to go through an uncontested divorce, it should be a lot less bitter than a contested one. It means that you’re able to keep things calm and avoid the arguing that we so often associated with divorces. If you both agree that this is the best kind of divorce for you, it could really help to keep things how they should be and avoid nastiness taking hold.

     

    Where Kids Are Involved, A Smooth Separation is Preferable

     

    When you have kids to think about a smooth separation is definitely what everyone should be working towards. You’re only going to make life more difficult for your child if you put them through a drawn out row between their parents. So if positive divorces do exist, they often take place because both of the people involved see that the child they share is what’s most important. It’s the right way to handle a difficult situation.

     

    Things Can Still Get a Little Messy

     

    Even when both of the people involved have committed to dealing with the divorce in a productive and respectful way, things can sometimes still get a little messy at times. That’s just the way divorces often go. You should be prepared for minor arguments and points of contention because even the most positive and clean divorces aren’t entirely clean or positive. You can and should try to make them as clean as they possibly can be though.

     

    Feelings Will Always Get in the Way to Some Extent

     

    Feelings are messy, and there are plenty of feelings floating around when you’re getting divorced. These can often get in the way and prevent a smooth and positive divorce from playing out, so you need to do what you can to keep those feelings in check.

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    There definitely is such a thing as a positive divorce, especially when you look at how messy and nasty some divorces can get. But you should never underestimate the pain that comes with splitting from someone who you thought you would spend the rest of your life with at one point.

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    Review: Mazda MX-5 Grand Touring

    Thanks to Mazda I was provided the 2019 Mazda MX-5 Grand Touring to test drive. As always, all opinions are my own.

    Last month me and my husband celebrated our eleven year anniversary. We didn’t leave NYC we stayed local and decided to make it a date night. To celebrate we got to test out the 2019 Mazda Miata Grand Touring model. This car is kid free proof,even though they wanted to come but it’s only a 2 seater (sorry kids). My 7 year old son said Mommy why drive such a small car like this. Because the car is so small it takes some getting use to but once you get over how everything around you is so big it’s smooth sailing.

    We went to the Hip Hop Restaurant Beatstro which is a great restaurant for comfort food with a hip hop vibe  (so glad we no longer have to travel to Manhattan for great food).

    What makes this car so special that my husband loves is the sports car feel and the retractable rooftop. We took the car around the Bronx and received many compliments.

     

    Some of the specs include:

    • Push Button ignition
    • BOSE AM/FM 9 Speaker
    • 7″ Color touch-screen display
    • Advanced keyless entry system
    • Heated front seats
    • Rearview Camera

    The price point of the Mazda MX-5 Grand Touring comes in at $34,410 (amazing price)!

    For more details on the new 2019 Mazda MX-5 visit MazdaUSA.com

     

     

     

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    The 4 Elements Of The Perfect Proposal

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    Proposals are always exciting, regardless of the outcome! Many people get proposed to every day, but what sets the best proposals apart from the rest? For me, you can break it down into four separate elements.

    The Timing

    Timing a proposal is so important. The last thing you want is to get the timing wrong and ask at the worst time possible. For example, if you’ve been in a relationship for a few weeks, then the timing probably isn’t right. Likewise, no one wants to be proposed to in the middle of an argument or during a particularly bad event. As an extreme example; don’t propose at a funeral, or at someone else’s wedding. If the timing is right, then the whole proposal feels so perfect.

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    The Ring

    Naturally, the engagement ring takes center stage during a proposal. For me, getting the right ring is a sign that the two of you understand one another and that the person proposing actually listens to you. If you drop hints that you love a certain ring and they get the complete opposite, then it is a bit of a let down as you feel like they don’t care. There’s no way of saying what the perfect ring is, it depends on the person. As it shows on the 77 Diamonds website, yellow gold and emerald cut rings are in fashion right now, but that doesn’t mean it’s the perfect ring for you. Spend time thinking about what you like best, make sure your partner knows, and hopefully, they get it for you.

    The Setting

    If the time is right, and the ring is amazing, then the next thing that comes into play is the setting. Certain proposals seem extra special as they take place somewhere that’s special to the couple. Just because someone proposed to their partner in a five-star hotel suite and it was super romantic, that doesn’t mean it’ll be romantic for you guys. Perhaps your idea of the perfect setting is the scene of your first date? For others, it could be in a very romantic place like Paris or Venice. Do I think anyone likes being proposed to in a restaurant in front of other diners? Not particularly, no. The setting can make or break the proposal, it’s vital!


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    The Speech

    Finally, it all comes down to the proposal speech. The words that are said as the proposal happens will really dictate how good it is. You want to feel the love pour from your partner’s mouth as they talk about all the reasons they love you and why they want to spend the rest of their life with you. If they just get down on one knee and say ‘will you marry me?’ then it doesn’t seem like much thought was put into it.

     

    If you’re already married, and you’re still reading this, then did your proposal have all of these elements? You said yes, so I’m willing to bet it did! If you’re not married, but a proposal is on the cards, then subtly show your partner this blog post so they know how to make it as special as can be.

     

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    Is Staying Together for the Kids a Good Idea?

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    All relationships are bound to go through a rough patch at some point or another. It’s human nature to end up disagreeing with someone about something somewhere down the line. This rings particularly true when it comes to people in relationships. When you live with someone and are around them day in and day out, you’re bound to rub each other the wrong way eventually. This is fine if your arguments are minor or occur once in a blue moon. However, when you find that yourself and your partner are flaring up into rows on a regular or even daily basis, you may have to start asking yourself whether this relationship is healthy – not only for you, but for your children too. So many people will try to make a relationship work for the sake of staying together for the kids. Sometimes, this is the right decision to make. At other times, it’s not. So, how do you know when to draw the line? Here are a few steps that you can take to determine what’s best for you and your family as a whole.

     

    Observe How Issues Are Affecting Your Children

     

    Arguments in your relationship are bound to affect you emotionally. But as adults, we are relatively resistant to emotional trauma and can put harsh word and high tempers behind us until the next time we start arguing. Children, however, tend to be a lot more sensitive. Constant conflict in the household can negatively affect them in various ways. So, take a look at how issues can be detrimental to your little ones. This should spur you on to take positive action as quickly as possible.

     

    Identify Problems in Your Relationship

     

    First, you need to identify the problems in your relationship that are causing arguments and conflict. This can be relatively difficult, as sometimes, you do have to hold your hands up to faults or flaws on your own part. Consider going to marriage counseling retreats. These neutral spaces can give you and your partner an opportunity to talk more openly about what is going wrong. Professionals can also help to guide conversation in the right direction, which will prevent you from going round in circles and will allow you to actually come to some conclusions.

     

    Figure Out Whether Issues Can Be Rectified

     

    Once you have figured out the causes of problems in your relationship, you can make a plan of action. Certain issues can be rectified. You can learn to communicate more effectively and change small flaws and issues. However, if you find that you and your partner are completely incompatible, that there has been physical or emotional abuse within the relationship, or that there are simply certain problems that you can’t forgive and forget, it may be time to call it a day. The change of lifestyle to co parenting can be difficult at first, but it may be better for your kids in the long run.

    As you can see, staying together for the kids might work in certain situations, but may not always be the best course of action for everyone involved. So, think carefully, seek professional help where necessary, and improve everyone’s quality of life with your chosen path of action.

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    Godly Ways To Save Your Marriage

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    When you and your partner said your marriage vows to each other, and before God, you probably had high hopes for the future. You were in love, and because of that love, you were probably sure that nothing would get in the way. Of course, life isn’t straightforward, and the bond between you may have become broken, for whatever reason. There may be issues that have weakened your relationship. And you may be considering calling it quits. But should you?

     

    Here is a disclaimer before we think about saving your marriage. There may be signs that your marriage is beyond repair. If trust has been broken or the relationship has become abusive, then sad to say it, but it may be time to end the marriage. However, if there is hope, if there is still some love between you, then don’t give up just yet. Before you call the divorce attorney, you may be able to save the marriage according to Godly principles you may have learned through your faith. Consider the following.

     

    Be forgiving. None of us are perfect; we are only human, after all. We do make mistakes, but should we be beholden to them forever? No! God forgives us, and in the same way, we should forgive each other. If your partner has done something to offend you, don’t bear a grudge. Forgive any mistakes and move on. If they continue to make the same mistakes, and provided the things they do are genuinely detrimental to your relationship, then it may be right to end the marriage. But if your partner is sorry, if they don’t repeat the mistakes again, or if the mistakes weren’t worth fussing over anyway, then show grace, and forgive. And by forgive, we also include forgiving yourself. Don’t let your past hinder the future you have with your partner. God forgives you and your partner may have forgiven you, so don’t let previous failings eat you up and sabotage your happiness.

     

    Be sacrificial. If there is anything you are doing that is taking you away from the relationship, then stop. Your relationship is the important thing, so if work, leisure activities, and social events are impinging on the time you spend with your partner, it may be time to adjust your priorities. Where possible, you both need to make sacrifices to give yourselves more time on making your marriage work. Use that time to talk to each other, have fun together, and to work out any differences that may be hindering your relationship.

     

    Seek guidance. When faced with fear and doubt, the disciples went to Jesus. In all of His humanity, Jesus spoke to His father. You must do the same. The first and most obvious thing you should do is pray. Pray for God to rebuild your marriage. Ask Him to show you where things are going wrong. Ask God to bring change where it is needed. Pray with your partner, and pray when you are alone. And then seek help from your church. Your Pastor may be able to offer guidance and counselling, or there may be other church members better-equipped to help you. You might even consider a Christian counselling service. You’re not alone, so look for those who can help you mend your relationship.

     

    If your marriage is in trouble, concentrate on our advice. There may still be time to rebuild your relationship and strengthen your bond before it is too late. Talk to your partner, spend time with them, seek help, and pray. God may have brought you together for a reason, so don’t let that love grow cold. Take care, and thanks for reading.