Toxic people are like split ends
February 4th makes one year since doing the big chop.During this process I learned something about letting go. So what did I learn? Let me give you some of my backstory, so in an effort to retain length I did protective styles like crochet braids, undoes, wigs and just leaving my hair in 2 strand twists. I was seeing growth. Then one day, while taking out my crochet braids i noticed that my hair broke off it and it was uneven dry, brittle and I started to cry. I couldn’t understand what just happened to my hair.
So this month makes a year from when I did the big chop I use to wear my hair short when I was younger (I loved Halle Berry hint hint). But what happened to my hair causing it to break off in that way? We will not talk about letting go. My problem after getting the length I wanted was not letting go of my ends. I had to learn from my hair that holding onto things can be dangerous. The split ends rose up my hair shaft and made it break. Your hair will still grow but if you don’t get rid of your split ends it will travel up the hair shaft and cause damage. The best way to get rid of split ends you have to cut it off don’t believe you can repair it because you can’t you have to cut it off.
Toxic people are like split ends
How does this apply to your spiritual life? The key word here is let go. How many people are you holding onto because you want to say you have a lot of friends? Or how many people are you holding onto because they make you look good? How many people and things did God tell you to get rid of and you are still holding on. Is your life being pulled down by the people and things you want to hold onto? God told you to stop smoking, drinking, cursing partying but like split ends if you don’t get rid of it from the beginning it will destroy your life. Here are my tips to getting rid of spiritual and physical split ends. Cut them off.
Ephesus 5:11 says take no part in the unfruitful works of darkness, but instead expose them.
Like split ends, which cause damage to our entire head we have to get rid of them because if we do not expose them they will destroy us.
However, it can be incredibly difficult to step away from a relationship that has meant a great deal to us. Whether that refers to a friend you have known since childhood – a person you always considered an essential part of your life – or a partner you wanted to spend the rest of your life with. However, when a person breeds toxicity – we become more attached to the person they once were, or the person we thought they were – than who they actually are.
This means that you can paint a picture in your head of who you want them to be as much as you’d like – but they’ll never match up to this. Therefore, though it is hard, you need to find a way to make the cut and put yourself (and your happiness) first. This, of course, can be more complicated if you are married to the person who is causing your unhappiness – as you have to contend with a variety of legalities and cover the Cost of Divorce. However, these are small prices to pay for your long-term, sustained happiness. Remember, divorce does not mean that you begin to dislike this person, or that it will end in a lengthy battle – many divorces can be filed amicably, based on a foundation of respect for each other.
Through this I have learned that I must take inventory of toxic people I must look at the people in my like who are like split ends and cut them off. I will not hold onto people in order to say I have this thing or have this amount of friends. I would rather have shorter hair than retain length with damaged ends in the same manner I would rather have 2 friends then toxic friends in my life.
Here are some scriptures that can help you see the dangers of toxic people
Proverbs 13:22 Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm
1 Corinthians 15:33 Do not be deceived: Bad company ruins good morals.
Do you have toxic people in your life that you need to get rid of?