One of the most important things that you can do in your life is to support your children. Come rain or shine, lockdown or breakup, your children should be your first priority and their mental health is so important, too. Emotional health is just as important as any other area of their health, and as a parent, you need to be as supportive as possible.
Children go through many stages in life and while you go through your stages, they go through it with you, too. You may not know that your child is suffering until it’s too late to help, and if you’re keeping an eye on your situation and forgetting how your children are feeling, you will see how they react to what’s going on. It won’t always be favorable! Children respond to the situation at hand and then your family goes through upheaval, they feel it. So, with that in mind, we’ve got some of the best ways that you can support your children no matter what.
- Communicate. If you want to be in touch with your children, you need to communicate with them. If there is a divorce or a relationship breakdown happening right now, then you need to talk them through it so that they can be okay with what’s about to happen. You can use the help of a counsellor to help you all to talk properly, but you can also make sure that you are asking them how they are and listening to the things that they have to say.
- Be Available. If you are the parent that is leaving the house, you need to do more than consult a child support lawyer – it’s about more than money. You need to be available to your children, and that means making sure that they get enough of your time. You need to react calmly when they are having outbursts as a reaction to the changes around them and you can validate their feelings with your attention and words.
- Watch For Stress. It’s so important that you are aware of whether your child is suffering from stress. If you are suffering from it, then it stands to reason that your child may be suffering with it, too. If you aren’t able to listen to them, they will be able to tell you if they are feeling too stressed out.
- Look After You. You are going through a break up or a loss and that’s hard to deal with. You need to look after yourself and get into a more rational state of mind. If you can look after you, you will be in a better position to look after others. Your children need you pouring from a full cup and an empty cup does not a good parent make.
Supporting your children is about learning what works for them and telling them that you are there for them no matter what. Be aware of their mental and emotional wellbeing and you will be better placed to look after them.