When someone close to us is going through a difficult time, it can be hard to know what to say. Especially when they’re going through something you have no experience with. But we should all strive to be the good samaritan and just show compassion.

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When The Hard Times Come

The difficulties your loved ones might be going through can take many forms. And it requires different things from you. For example, if they’ve done something illegal, you might have to find out who can sign a surety bond. And if they’ve experienced addiction, you may have to go to counseling with them. 

No matter what has happened, a bereavement, an accident, or even financial troubles, the best thing you can do is show compassion. And to leave your judgment at the door. Judgment won’t help them in the now other than to make everything harder. 

Here are 5 things you can do to help those close to you in their time of need. 

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How To Help Your Loved Ones Through Tough Times

  1. Be There To Listen

The simple act of asking how someone is and then listening with intent shows them how much you care. And actively listen. Don’t interrupt or push the conversation in a specific direction. Instead, let them take you where they want to go. Again, this shows that you genuinely care about how they’re doing and what they’re going through. 

Listening properly allows you to understand their situation and then express your sympathy genuinely. 

  1. Ask What Support Looks Like To Them

Everyone is an individual. So support looks different to each person. Take a minute and stop yourself from jumping in to problem solve. Sometimes people don’t want that. Sometimes they just need someone to listen. And then there will be other times when they do want help problem-solving. 

Before you jump in, ask them what great support looks like right now. It shows you want to help while allowing them to control what that help looks like. If you can’t help in the way they want or need, be honest with them. Being upfront is much better than letting them down the line. If you can’t help them, point them in the direction of someone who can. 

  1. Contact Professionals 

Sometimes, the help that our loved ones need is way above what we can provide for them. Both physically and mentally. Identifying when something is too much for you is a big part of helping your loved ones. Because you’ll be helping them more by contacting professionals who are better equipped. 

  1. Remember The Good Times

When something terrible is going on in the lives of our loved ones, we have a tendency to focus on it. And it becomes the only thing we talk about or ask about when we’re around them. But that can only exacerbate the situation.

True, it comes from a good place. Because you want to check in on how they are doing, And whether there’s anything else you can do for them. But eventually, it will taint all your interactions with them. And they might pull away from you. So instead, focus on the good times. Remember good times that have been, and make new ones. Give them things to look forward to. 

  1. Be Realistic

On the road to recovery, no matter what kind of recovery, we often want it to go quicker than it actually does. And it’s not always a smooth road; there can be relapses and hard times even when you’re years down the road. So be realistic about the journey ahead. And be forgiving with yourself and those you love.